An Ontological Coaching Community
An Ontological Coaching Community
What might happen during a coaching conversation? This outline from Lars Meyer describes the arc of an ontological coaching session, from finding a focus to bringing what you learn into everyday life.
The first-person description below is Lars’s account of working with a client. Each coach and conversation will be different; this is a guide to a possible flow, rather than a fixed script.
We’ll begin by identifying what truly matters to you in this moment. Perhaps you’ll want to reflect on previous sessions, consider your overarching goals, or focus on a particular challenge. By the end of this step, we’ll both be clear on the topic or direction that will guide our exploration.
With our focus established, we’ll delve deeper into the beliefs, assumptions, and habitual patterns influencing your current way of being. I’ll ask questions that help uncover not only what you think, but how you think—the language you use, the emotions you bring, and the posture you embody. As new insights emerge, you’ll gain clarity about what’s been holding you back and begin seeing fresh possibilities you may not have noticed before.
As your awareness expands, we’ll consider alternative viewpoints and potential strategies. By exploring how changes in language, emotion, and body might alter your experience, you’ll naturally uncover new directions and opportunities for growth. These shifts in perspective often pave the way for meaningful breakthroughs.
Next, we’ll translate your insights into tangible steps. Together, we’ll co-create actions and practices that align with your values, fit your life, and support the changes you want to make. These aren’t just tasks on a to-do list; they’re ways of being, communicating, and responding that will help you embody what you’ve learned.
Before we end our session, we’ll confirm what you’re taking forward—how you’ll measure your progress, what resources you might draw on, and how I can support you along the way. You’ll leave feeling clear, empowered, and ready to integrate these insights into your daily life.
This arc ensures that our time together isn’t just a conversation—it’s a transformational process that helps you engage more consciously with the world around you and move steadily toward the outcomes you care about.
Over time, each session builds on the previous one. You’ll have the chance to integrate new behaviors, try out strategies, and then return to future sessions ready to reflect, adapt, and continue moving forward. This ongoing cycle of awareness, choice, and action is what makes coaching a transformative journey.
The arc of a coaching session takes you from identifying what’s important to you right now, through the discovery of new insights, to the creation of practical steps that you can use to bring positive, lasting change into your life.
There is more than one way to begin. Explore a few guided questions, or get to know the coaches in your own time.
Explore what you are dealing with, what you are looking for, and the conversation styles that work for you through a guided series of questions.
We will suggest a few coaches as a good place to begin, alongside others you may want to explore. You can skip questions and change your answers.
Browse our community at your own pace. Read about each coach’s approach, the areas they work with and what a conversation with them might feel like.
Notice who sparks your curiosity. You can arrange an introductory conversation to explore whether you feel comfortable working together.